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Embracing Love, Embracing Marriage

The Multifaceted Wife

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What the heck is ta multifaceted wife? Am I her? Is this a good or bad thing? These were questions I had when I was asked to minister this message.

Since I had no clue what Multifaceted truly meant (I only heard it a 20 thousand times in my adult life), I decided to it look up. Trust, I am not that super smart. I chose to begin with the root word: FACET.

The 1st Webster definition of facet is: a small, flat surface on a jewel. That’s just one side.

WOW! I love this definition! So if we are multifaceted, then we make up all the sides of a jewel. This then technically makes us jewels. Right?

Zechariah 9:16 (NLT) On that day the Lord their God will rescue his people, just as a shepherd rescues his sheep. They will sparkle in his land like jewels in a crown.

Girl, did you see that?? Jewels in a crown. That’s in the BIBLE!

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Jewels are unbreakable and always shining. Beautiful! To be cherished. Priceless! One of a kind. Irreplaceable! Needs insurance and added to your homeowner’s policy. Wow! We are some pretty important ladies.  I know when I got my 15 year anniversary ring with that elusive “big rock”, I just knew I was something special girlfriend.

So, how does this correlate to being a wife. Well, in my book, Being a Wife Just Got Real, I share the many roles we play as wives. Nurse, secretary, travel agent, chef, laundress, mistress, counselor and the l

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ist goes on and on. Those descriptions show just how multifaceted we are. I’m sure many of you can testify that you are your husband’s jewel. Priceless in his eyes even if he doesn’t express it (I got, “you know you are so why do I have to say it?”).

So as you go along this day, keep your head up if your marriage is a hot mess right now. There is hope on the other side! Trust me, I was there. When I focused on my multifaceted and often complex role as a wife, my marriage changed. If God did it for me, He will most certainly do it for you sis!

Romans 8:28 Amplified Bible (AMP) And we know [with great confidence] that God [who is deeply concerned about us] causes all things to work together [as a plan] for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to His plan and purpose.

What roles do you fill for your husband? If not married, how can you prepare to fill the multiple roles of a wife?

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Black Love, Embracing Love

Congressional Black Caucus Relationship Panel

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3 months after my book launch and 2 months after a total rebranding, I sat on a panel at the Congressional Black Caucus. The panel consisted of  experts in the field of relationships and marriage.

Say what now? The chick who was pregnant at 19 and looking at the military as her only option? The girl who’s baby daddy had another girl pregnant at the same time? Yeah, that girl.

I had the awesome opportunity to work alongside my husband last week. It was definitely a dream come true for the both of us! Granted it was only for 54 minutes, but they are 54 minutes that I will never forget.

I was invited to participate in the Congressional Black Caucus Relationship Panel. I was in shock when I was initially asked to do it. My hubby, on the other hand, was extremely proud of me. He said the hard work I put into my new book, Being a Wife Just Got Real, Things I Wish I knew Before I Said, “I Do” was paying off. He was adamant that it was the direct result of God’s grace on the book. My hubby assured me that God’s desire to see marriages be healthy and whole who be helped with this book.

We met he other couples on the panel and chatted it up. It felt like we knew each other for years. They were especially friendly and we talked with them for several minutes at the end of our segment.

After the panel was over, I had the opportunity to sell my book in the Author Pavilion. I met several other authors who had intriguing books that I will be adding to my home collection of books to read.

I am eternally thankful for this blessed opportunity and the fact that it opened doors for more speaking engagements.

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Embracing Love, Real Conversations

Real Wife Conversation at the Serendipity Jazz Coffeehouse 

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The atmosphere was relaxing and quaint. The food was good and the menu was impressive.

I was pleased to have an opportunity to speak with older patrons about Washington, DC in their day prior to the event beginning. Everyone was friendly and the staff was extremely welcoming. Jesse, the owner, was awesome and he thanked me for coming. I loved chatting with him throughout the night. 

The event started off with Tiah introducing me and then I explained the reason why I wrote my book. The conversation took on a life of its own as men and women weighed in on the subject of being a wife. Before I knew it, 2 hours flew by with people still talking about love, relationships, sex, kids and divorce. 

 

Since I had an hour drive to get home, I wrapped up my portion of the discussion to begin the book signing. One gentleman loved my message so much, he bought 5 copies of the book to give away. Another guy bought 3. I believe the men enjoyed the conversation more than the women and I was glad they were able to hear the heart of a woman from a woman.

I have to say, I truly enjoyed this Real Wife Conversation and hope to incorporate more of them where men are involved and can not only be heard but also to hear relationships, from a woman’s point of view.

Do you think men should be included in conversations pertaining the roles of women in relationships?