To my beautiful, strong, BLACK MAN!
I want to first start off with apologizing to you. I am publicly apologizing for not respecting you when you deserve my respect and so much, more.
Watching the news over the last 48hrs got me twisted, babe. I am going to say, I am even a bit ashamed of myself. Here I am, all emotional, tore up and angry because a police officer took yet another, black man’s life. They not only had total disregard for our brothers’ lives, but they also had no respect.
Immediately, God arrested me in my moment of disgust. He clearly showed me how I have been no different: I just didn’t use a gun as my weapon of choice.
Here I was indignant that these men were murdered, but I murdered your spirit with my hateful thoughts and words. Here I was pissed off that these men didn’t get a chance to speak for themselves, yet, I’ve walked away form conversations without giving you a chance to speak your mind.
Countless times, I immediately assumed the worse of you and in those moments, disrespected you with my words and actions. Oftentimes, I purposefully shut you down with my sharp tongue. Other times, I called you names, degraded you and even said things I knew would hurt you to your core. I was careless in how I treated you, I punished you with no sex, I embarrassed you in front of friends and family.
No-I didn’t use bullets to hurt and maim you, but my poison was just as damaging and deadly.
So, TODAY, I pledge to honor and lift you up! I pledge to pray for you! I pledge to listen to your concerns, your hurts, your fears, without trying to FIX YOU! That’s not my job; my job is to love you unconditionally.
I pray that you will forgive me and that we can forge together to raise our BLACK SON to be a loving BLACK HUSBAND just like you. #BLACKLIVESMATTER #BLACKLOVEMATTERS
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This touched my spirit because I’ve been the same way at times to my husband. Thank you for your transparency and reminder.
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Love this post sis! We definitely need to continue to lift up and support our spouses even more.
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What a beautiful heartwarming post. I am sure your husband and countless other black men know who has their back in these time. Black women no matter how we fight or get mad at our men, we are by their side in these times. We hold them down when society doesnt and I hope they appreciate us for it – not just in these times.
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Awesome words. God’s hands are always the best hands. We can take action but when we put God in the midst, we will always win.
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I love how you pledged to pray for your husband. Our black men (and women) truly need prayer right now.
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Ouch! Yes, I think there are times when all wives do this. We need to support our husbands more, I know I do!
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Such a transparent post – love it! I agree that #blacklovematters now more than ever!
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Thanks sis! My whole movement is about improving relationships and marriages but we can’t do it if we are not honest about our shortcomings.
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I so worry about my hubby too!! I don’t know what to say to him sometime because I see the look in his eyes
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Girl, all we can do is pray each and every day. My son is 13yrs old and we ran over drills with him about his conduct even in the neighborhood.
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Awesome post. I worry about how others might kill my boys and my husband, but it is quite possible that I may be killing them slowly with my own words. Definitely something to think about.
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We have to ensure our words are building our men up. The world tears them down so much, daily. Glad I gave you something to think about.💓
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This is when the Sister Circle is used to enclosed our men in our hearts, and arms to let them know, and feel the tremendous love we have for them. My minor son and my husband I’m not afraid to say my heart is not settled during the day when we have to be apart. I am sure many mothers and wives feel the same. I agree with Tanya home is where they should feel love, secure, and be safe. They are my Kings!
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We all judge and we all act unfairly. I think you cracked the code. Each of us must examine ourselves and your post has inspired me to do so. Thank you for speaking up!
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This is very touching. We all judge and we’re all unfair. I think you cracked the code here. We must all examine ourselves and do better. Thank you for speaking up and for sharing this!
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Thank you sis! Change starts with us.
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Oh the Truth HuRtS!!! I apologize too. We must consistently do better.
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SIS! I’ve been messed up all day and hubby left to go out of town today. I miss him already. I will be better!
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I worry about my husband too. When he’s in his uniform he is a marvelous curiosity that is held in high regard… On his turf. When he gets to the hotel he changes into regular, still polished, clothes. He often walks or waits for shuttles in whichever city he is in. My heart, my Soul, stays unrested until he is locked in his room.
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WE have to put them in God’s hands and continue to love on them. This is feel will cover them along with God’s protection.
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