I Am Great Mom!

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Me and Gabi, 1994
Me and Gabi, 1994

For years, I questioned my parenting skills and I wondered if I would ever be a great mom. After all, I was pregnant with my 1st child, Gabi, at 19-years-old. As a single mom, I went into the military to be able to take care of the both of us.img_2899

Seven years later, I was a married and on bed-rest. From there, I was a stay-at-home mom for several years. My kids went from homeschooling to public school and back to private school. I was my kids’ Girl Scout troop leader, cheer coach, soccer/football team mom and the list goes on. I truly believed that if I did all of this, my kids would be awesome and not get into stuff like I did.

Well, when our oldest daughter was a teenager, I found out she was cutting (Google it this is still very painful for me to talk about.) A year later, she was arrested and sent to jail for theft at her mall job; she was a few months out of high school and a few from shipping out in the Navy.

Gabi's Coast Guard boot-camp graduation Oct. 2015
Gabi’s Coast Guard boot-camp graduation Oct. 2015

After this, she decided to live with several boyfriends and their mamas (I promise she was raised in church) as well as with the neighbor across the street (She paid them rent, cooked and cleaned the house, y’all!!!) Then I found out via Facebook that she was married. Talk about a blow to your mothering self-esteem.

Eight years later, I found myself dealing with bad grades, a bad attitude, more cutting and yes, even a fight video (I almost had a nervous break-down from that – BUT GOD!!!) I actually stayed away from social media any time report cards were issued because I felt like an utter and complete failure. I blamed myself for my both of my daughters’ poor choices.

Doni’s 1st high school dance

Saturday, my 16-year-old daughter had an opportunity to hang with friends. I knew she was looking forward to hanging out with her friends since this was the first time she has all As and 2 Bs since 5th grade. Instead of going to the movies with them, she searched the mall for a gift for me….


It took everything within me not to have an emotional breakdown when she gave it to me.  She hugged me! She thanked me for being a great mom to her. So, I encourage you to trust that God is faithful! I am finally seeing the results of what I put into my kids.

I now know that, Yes, I am a Great Mom!

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29 thoughts on “I Am Great Mom!

  1. Wow! You had to endure a lot. I’m so glad you were strong. The fact is you can only do your best and leave all else in the hands of a higher being 🙂 . Glad she realized what a great mom you are.

  2. AMAZING testimony! I also had my first daughter young, at 20. And went through lots of struggles too with her especially after moving to another country which allows kids to drink at 16! And we do doubt our parenting skills, been there! Prayer was and still is my biggest strategy with my kids! My daughter turned out incredible and we are very close today! Thanks for sharing and spreading the message! You’re not alone! Please, check out my link about this topic, if you desire 😉 http://www.cactusandcurry.com/our-tribe/5-important-actions-to-take-when-you-are-losing-grip-of-your-child

    1. OMG!!! I love it! I’m glad we connected. Yes, I had to give it to God after trying to manage them by myself. So many times I gave up but He then made me strong. Thanks for sharing.

  3. Parenting is not easy. All you can do is your best. Children respond to unconditional love and that’s what you have shown your two girls. We hear and pay attention to the lessons learned but it is up to us to determine if we will apply them to our lives.

  4. Awwww, so sweet. I can’t get all emotional this early in the morning. I’m sure my crazy decisions as a child kept my mom in prayer. I’m so thankful she is living to see that trouble doesn’t last always. She can see her struggle wasn’t in vain.

  5. Wow, you are strong and sound like a great mom. I can appreciate you keeping it real and not glossing over the reality of family, you will go through ups and downs and have to pray that your children will find their way. I need to share this with my sister.

  6. What a testimony! And yes, you are an amazing Mom!!! Often times children go through seasons (I did), but one thing is…you always remained faithful to the gift God gave you. I am a believer that God works EVERYTHING out for good (yes, even the bad). Keep sharing your journey, because I know there are tons of parents out there going through what you are going through.

  7. Honey, I got a little emotional on this one. Great post, Tanya! You put so much time and effort into raising them right, but ultimately, they need to figure things out for themselves. I’m so glad you’re seeing the fruits of your labor.

      1. He is faithful! Those middle school years are the toughest. Kids go through so much emotionally. Parents aren’t always equipped to manage all that their kids are dealing with. I see it daily, but I’m a praying principal. <3

  8. This parenting thing is no joke. These kids test our endurance, patience, faith and everything else. I often question my mothering abilities and why god gave me a non biological child. My husband constantly reminds me that I am capable and I am doing my best and that’s all that any of them can ask of me. Thanks for sharing this. Lord knows you’ve been through some stuff too.

    1. Thanks Kenya! I can imagine how tough it is. I think for women it is especially hard because we naturally give and it hurts when you yield something different than what you are giving.

  9. That was so sweet of her. My daughter is six and my son is one. I knew what a handful I was, but I’m not in any way ready prepared for what they might throw at me. Thankfully, I gave them back to the Lord when they were born so I’m not going to lose any sleep over wondering now.

  10. God wouldn’t put you through anything that you couldn’t handle. EVERYBODY has their own testimony and those that pretend to have a perfect family are full of it. Thank you for always being so transparent.

  11. I am intrigued by your family story. My mom went through similar stuff (except the cutting) with my older sister. Did your oldest two daughter ever recover and grow from their rebellious youth??? I am just curious how their lives turned out after they went into the initial direction they took?

    There is no instruction manual on how to be a good mom or how to deal with rebellious kids. Some kids are just going to do what they want to do, but so happy you had another child that did show you the appreciation the other two didnt. Maybe the other two need therapy for something.

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