During the month of October, The Real Wife Movementâ„¢ will be featuring stories from wives who have blended families. They will share what they did to ensure their families thrived beyond 10 years.
Be inspired by Naomiâ€™s Story.
â€œI love you, Mr. Sammy.â€
Anytime I stop and think about the relationship between my husband and daughter, I always think back to her little 4-year-old voice uttering those words. My husband and I were married in 2005 and my daughter simply adored him!
We had a conversation with my daughter Corlise prior to our wedding, and we explained to her that we were getting married. I mainly focused on telling her that she didnâ€™t have to call him â€œdaddy.â€ My husband and I were both fine with her referring to him as Mr. Sammy. I remember my daughter saying so clearly and with a big smile on her face, “No, I WANT to call him daddy.â€ I didnâ€™t know it then, but that was a great lesson for me.Â
Her little self knew that if mom and Mr. Sammy were getting married, WE were all going to be one family unit. She never knew
about step-parenting until she got older and met other children with step-parents. She came home one day and told me that she and some other children were in conversation about step parents. They wanted to know why my daughter didnâ€™t refer to her dad as a step-dad. She told them, â€œBecause, heâ€™s not.â€ Her response to those other children made me smile. It caused me to reflect on how my husband has always treated our soon-to-be 17-year-old like a queen and like his own.
Heâ€™s loved her, disciplined her, and raised her to love God. My husband has been a great example of Godâ€™s unconditional love and acceptance. As believers, we have all been adopted into the Body of Christ and God NEVER treats us like “step” anything! My hope for other blended families is that they keep the concepts of oneness, love, and acceptance at the forefront of their minds.
Our family has been through many ups and downs over the years, but we continue to stand as a family unit, learning how to overcome any obstaclesâ€¦together.