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About Me

I am, affectionately known as the “Real”Wife Coach. I am a relationship and empowerment speaker. I am the author of Being a Wife Just Got Real: Things I Wish I Knew, Before I Said, I Do“. I am an expert relationship panelist for the Congressional Black Caucus and NAACP.

I help women who love their husbands yet hate being married, get back to loving being married again.

I give you the tools you need to navigate your personal renewal and transformation. You will receive one-on-one coaching to empower you to create a healthy mental, emotional and spiritual environment.

I also coach single women in preparation for marriage. I provide wives with tools to use to become a better version of themselves in order to create stronger marriages and families.


  • Huffington Post Women
  • Johns Hopkins University Alumni Association
  • Howard University
  • Congressional Black Caucus: Relationship Panel/Author Pavilion
  • N.A.A.C.P. Author Pavilion
  • The Tom Joyner Morning Show
  • SiriusXM 141 HUR Voices
  • 96.3FM WHUR
  • Maryland Public Television
  • Be Blogalicious
  • Today Show
  • TedX

I was a contributing writer for Black and Married with Kids and I am still a gwriter for The BOSS Network.

I am a U.S. Air Force veteran and the founder of Forever Free Books, which is a mobile literacy nonprofit. Forever Free Books provides story time, free books and fun crafts to children in low-income communities.

My Bachelor’s is in Social Science from the University of Maryland, University College. I am a marathoner, triathlete, and an avid book reader. With my husband, Don, we have three awesome children and a grandbaby on the way

Book me for your teen, women’s, single/marriage ministries, and relationship events!

Follow me on Social Media, FB/IG/TW/PER: @RealWifeCoach


What People Are Saying About Tanya

Over this past year, I've had the opportunity to travel with Mrs. Barnett to several of her book promoting events, as her personal photographer. While there, I have watched countless women come to her and share their story, some in tears. They all have the same statement, “they were blessed by her book and felt freed-up! It's been an amazing journey to see the many women Tanya has come in contact with. She has reached out to, spoke to and even cried with some!
Tiffany Redden
Washington, DC
After reading Being A Wife Just Got Real, I felt the need to host a book discussion event. I feel like this book reminds us that we are not struggling alone and that there is hope. Too often, many of us are dealing with issues in our marriage and we don't know what to do or where to turn. I love that Don and Tanya were courageous enough to share their trials so that myself and others would be encouraged to hang in there.
Kim Strong
Tanya is a kind hearted, authentic, accountable marriage enricher. As a single woman I've been praying to connect with married women who are willing to give their truth about marriage. Tanya has sowed powerful seeds into my life to help me prepare for marriage. She taught me to have a soft response when men approach me. I hosted a Being A Wife Just Got Real book party, and the sisters have gathered twice to share our book experiences. The Real Wife Movement is empowering women and their marriages today, tomorrow & forever!
Nikki Newsome

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