I had been living with a lot of guilt lately. It was not from anything that I did but it still robbed me of my joy and thanksgiving. I had been feeling guilty for all the good things happening in my life recently.I wanted to rejoice that my parents and brothers would be at my house for Thanksgiving. I wanted to celebrate the true love my husband now has for me after 17 years of marriage. I wanted to celebrate my oldest daughter being successful in the Coast Guard after all the things she put us through – there is another book in the making telling this story. I wanted to celebrate my baby girl finally getting on Honor Roll after 5 years of bad grades and matching behavior. I wanted to celebrate all of this but guilt was holding me hostage and I was having difficulty being thankful.
I felt guilty that all the negative things in my life were working out for my good. I’m sure you are wondering why I would feel this way.
I felt (past tense) this way because some of my friends are not experiencing the same victories. I felt guilty that I have both of my parents alive and active in my life. I have friends who don’t have their parents here anymore and others, like my husband, whose mother is not in his life.
I felt guilty because my husband and I stayed married while we constantly witnessed our friends’ marriages fall apart. I felt guilty because I wrote a book about our marriage restoration and its successful. I felt guilty because my friends who were going through in their marriages when I was, still are. I felt like I was pushing my success in their faces.
I felt guilty that I lost 53lbs and kicked diabetes in the butt but I have friends who are still struggling with weight and who are on several medicines because of it.I felt guilty because Gabi, who once was in jail, got her life together while other friends kids are still out there. I felt guilty that I have a church home that I love and one that my family is thriving in, but I have a few friends whose husbands don’t even go to church with them.
I even wondered if sharing my recent success was a form of bragging. Every time I got ready to post on my blog, I got nervous. I wanted to hide everything I was doing, but as a blogger, it’s my job to write about what I am doing. My mentor would fuss me out every rim I didn’t post. As the Real Wife Coach, it’s my job to encourage other women that they can have happy and healthy relationships.While chatting with my dad over coffee the other morning, he reminded me that I didn’t go through hell and back in my marriage to keep it to myself. He reminded me that God is using it for my good and for the good of countless other women and their families. He reminded me that I deserve God’s blessings.
He reminded me to be thankful that my life is turning around for the better. He reminded me to be thankful that I still have both him and mommy. He said God is blessing my friends, who parents are deceased, in other ways. He reminded me to be thankful that God answered my many years and prayers for my children.So today, I am making a choice to be thankful minus the guilt this Thanksgiving. I will rejoice in God’s goodness. I will be thankful that my dad will be fussing about cooking thanksgiving dinner, once again, even though he bought all the groceries and brought his pots and pans with him. I will be thankful that I love my honey and he loves me. I will be thankful that my kids are great kids.
I will be thankful that God is God and that is enough.
24 thoughts on “I Will Be Thankful Minus the Guilt This Thanksgiving”
Listen doll, kick that guilt in the back area al the way to hell, where it came from. Satan always wants to rob us of our joy. You were challenged, you struggled and you’ve overcome. Soak in it. Be thankful in it and share your stories. Our stories matter. They can help, empower and transform.
Yes and AMEN to all that! Thank you for the empowering words! They truly are on time.
Intentional is my husband’s favorite song BTW! I totally get it. It feels like bragging when great things happen. Most of the time when I have something awesome coming up, I tell one or two people who convince me to share. I know so many people are struggling, but when I do post, I always end up inspiring someone. Thank you for being you and sharing your victories!
Girl, I love that song so much! It helps you to stay grounded. Thank you sis!
You have so much to be thankful for and guilt free. Give thanks and enjoy this season of life.
Girl, this is my time to grow in this area. Thank you!
I loved this post. It so important that we focus on gratitude. Keep up the great work and continue to share your testimony. You are an inspiration!
Sounds like a chat with Dad was just what you needed. Don’t forget that your strength and progress is an inspiration to those in the struggle. So they can see that this to shall past. They can see that there can be joy on the other side.
I’m glad I went to my dad and had this conversation. He helped me get out of my own head.
Wow, you have an awesome testimony. Don’t feel guilty because you can use this turnaround to empower others. Happy Holidays!
I am learning everyday to be okay with moving forward even though I may be leaving folks behind.
Guilt can be a real doozy. I’ve learned to live without apology. It’s a huge part of self care for me! Great read, Queen!
I can totally feel you on this post, I dont know if guilty is the word for me but i do think wow God, I have truly been blessed I dont have a lot of sad stories to tell; especially in comparison to so many others lives.. But i have to remember to continue to be grateful for my life and pray for others people lives.. It seems as if you have gone through some things and now its time to rejoice and tell others as encouragement.
Thanks sis for the encouraging words!
Be thankful and quit-free, honey! Great read!
Thank you Tracey! I appreciate you so much!
In this life, there is no time to feel guilty because your life is moving along. It’s going the way just as God planned it.
AMen sis! Thanks for the wisdom!
I think that is awesome you are allowing yourself to be happy with your blessings no matter the circumstance!
Yes! That was the best gift I could have given myself.
Yes queen! Live a guilt free life! You have nothing to be ashamed of!
Thanks sis! I wish I knew this before living with guilt for years.
Congrats on your many accomplishments and blessings! Definitely be thankful and guilt free for them all! 🙂
Thanks sis! Sometimes we need a new perspective on things and my dad helped me see it.