When Pain Becomes Purpose

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As I was shopping the other day, I heard someone shouting my name from down the aisle. I looked around and there was this lady smiling at me and calling my name. I timidly walked over to her since I did not recognize her. She had a big smile on her face as she clearly knew who I was. I was running the memory machine for those few seconds as I got close enough to her but I was drawing a blank.

She said, “OMG! You are Tanya’s Xchange!” I immediately thought to myself, “who is that?”, but it quickly registered that is what she was calling me. She grabbed me and hugged me, so all I could do was hug her back. I felt extremely awkward and nervous, so I came clean and told her I had no idea who she was. She proceeded to tell me that we never met but how my website and social media messages have blessed her tremendously.

It took everything within me not to cry. I had no idea the girl who was always, but barely chosen last for kick ball and dodge-ball would be an inspiration. I was  overwhelmed that the years of pain and shame I felt behind being a 19 year old pregnant, collegeIMG_0446 drop-out and baby mama reject were building me up for such a time as this. The years of asking God why I had a marriage from “hell”, made this one moment in time worth every minute of it.

I asked her name and listened intently as she shared her current, painful situation. I offered her hope and encouragement and asked her to join the Facebook support page, Being A Wife Just Got Real, to find a prayer partner to pray with her through her trying marriage.

We hugged again as we parted ways. Each step to my car, was a struggle to hold back the tears. Once I got in it, the floodgates opened. I cried in my car as I thanked God for using my pain for purpose. My pain made me a stronger woman who is now, giving to hope and a bright future to other women. God pricked my heart to run back in the store to give her a copy of my book. I prayed that God will give her the strength to get through her tough time so she can eventually help someone else through theirs.

How have you turned your pain into His Purpose? If you have already, I would love to know what it was?


0 thoughts on “When Pain Becomes Purpose

  1. Thanks for sharing such a powerful moment. I hope you’ll continue to encounter more of them as you continue to utilize what you’ve been through to help encourage and empower others. I’m using my pain to first pursue healing and then to offer it to others. It’s a process I’m still in. Keep blessing others with the burdens you’ve laid down.

      1. Amen, our pain prepares us for the position to be used at the right time for God’s glory. Thank you for being transparent and trusting us to take from what you’ve been through. Blessings.

  2. Wow! What an amazing story. Thanks for sharing. It’s always nice to realize how far the reach is thanks to the internet. May you continue to inspire 🙂

  3. Whew- powerful! Wow, you just never know how much you do in life- as you get through your own pain- will elevate someone else past theirs. This is such a good reminder for us to keep on keepin’ on.

  4. Aw man! I often shy away from sharing my story. I know that one day it will bless someone – I just have to get my mind right to share it. This made me think that I may be in the way of someone else’s blessing by keeping my mouth shut… great post!

  5. See, now that is what I’m talking about! When you meet someone that has been blessed by something you said or did, it makes it all worth while!

  6. I just saw you at the Rise Empowerment Conference yesterday! Just like the event, this was a powerful post. Authenticity always shines through. It’s always “strange” when we meet followers out in public. I think we take for granted how being public about our pain is truly blessing someone else. Continue to be the light in someone’s dark place.

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