The holidays are an exciting time. I love spending time with my family and traveling. I love eating yummy foods from my childhood. In the midst of all of this, my to-do list gets pretty long. I’m thinking about making dentist appointments while the kids are off, refilling meds, getting the dog to the groomer and on and on. Unfortunately, my Boo/hubby rarely makes onto this list. It’s more like he gets half of the list to help a sister out. You know what I am saying?
When he complained the other day about feeling last or left out, I was a little offended at first. In my head, I was thinking, “dude, I got a lot of stuff to do and I’m exhausted. I am not Aunt Jemima.”
I took a pause and got myself together. I asked Don what did I need to do to make him feel like he was on my list. You ladies already knew what his answer was. Men!
Being the TOTALLY AMAZING WIFE that I am, I CHOSE to oblige him. After all, I could scratch this off my list in like 5 minutes. LOL! After he got his fix, I was ready to hit my errands with a newfound pep in my step, and guess what, he was too!! It was a win/win for the both of us. Hey, I live by the Bible verse that says, “give, and it shall be given unto you.”
I wanted to share a few tips the next several days of how to make time for your Boo during this holiday season. It’s important that we stayed in tuned, so these next two weeks are enjoyable for everybody. I promise he will thank you for it in one way or another.
Communicate – As you saw from what I shared, we had to have a conversation. State your needs. Listen to his. Take a moment to have a conversation. Not just through text messaging. Things can get so mixed up through texts. Or like what happened to us, he has gotten my texts a few days later. I’m looking at my phone thinking he is ignoring me because I see ‘delivered.’
Once we had our conversation, we both had a choice to make. Do we work together or do we stay selfish? Working together ensured everyone got what they needed. Hubby needed his intimate time, and I had no idea that I really needed a brother to give me the hook up too.
Find a place to talk with no distractions. Since we have teenagers, we lock our bedroom door and just chill in there to talk. Our kids know they better not knock on our door when it is closed. Establishing communication is so key as we close out this year.
So, I want you to take a few moments to be intentional about asking him if he has any needs right now. In the same vain, let him know your needs too.
I heard these two songs in my car the other day. They summed it all up perfectly.