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Upon our return from Germany, I got wind of another book called Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. This not only helped me set boundaries with my husband, but it also helped me set them with friends and family.
I was always a person who suffered from low self-esteem, so I was the queen of People Pleaser Land. The downside to that was that I was constantly miserable and made my husband and children miserable, too. Boundaries was the book that helped me begin the process of getting my life back.
Another set of books that had a positive impact on my marriage was The Four Seasons of a Marriage Series by Gary Chapman and Catherine Palmer. Even though they are fictional accounts, I saw Don and I in every story in some kind of way. I cried several times while reading this four-book set. It made me think about my marriage and what I wanted it to look like. I never gave any thought as to how I wanted my marriage to be. And these books helped me literally step outside of myself to look at it from another vantage point. I’m so glad I found these books, and I still check them out from the library every few years just to get a refresher.
To be totally honest with you, the book that made the most impact these last two years of my marriage, is my very own book. I wrote my book, Being a Wife Just Got Real, Things I Wish I Knew Before I Said “I Do” because I did not want other women to experience the dysfunction my husband and I had.
It was not just a cathartic release for me; it was introspective. I wrote this book in a conversational way because I didn’t find any books like that when I was going through our rough patches. Throughout the entire writing process, I cried so many times and apologized to Don a million more times for all the pain I caused him. We both received so much healing during the writing process. I share our issues, our ways of managing them and how we overcame things such as alcoholism and an emotional affair.
What books have you read that had an impact on improving or even restoring your relationship or marriage?
Nice! Congratulations on the book and so glad it really helped you. I find sometimes writing things down help form a path as well as clear my head. Great that it patched things up with the marriage.
Absolutely sis! I didnt understand how much writing would help us.
Love the book title and congrats. Books are great resources for every topic. I’ll keep these in mind for future reference.
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Thanks sis! I hope you give me feedback after you read it.
Thank you for the suggestions. I added the power of a praying husband and the power of a praying wife to my amazon cart because of you. Our 6th anniversary is coming, and these would be great. Congrats on your book. I love your transparency.
I have that “Boundries” book in my amazon wish list. These are good suggestions. Thanks. 🙂
The library has all these books I listed. Check them out there.
I’m glad you had these books to read. It helped us stay married.
Absolutely! Love you!
Thanks for these suggestions. I’m tying to get my book list together so I will definitely be adding some of these!
Yes ma’am….visit your local library. They will have most of them.
I need to check out your book. I haven’t read any relationship books in a while
Thanks Latoya! Let me know your thoughts.
There is healing in writing, it has done some things for me. I’ve not read any couple/relationship books. It sound terrible typing it out.
LOL! Girl, sometimes I use the diction app Dragon.
We don’t often get around to reading like we use too I need these on audio.
I’m sure all of these are on audio book but mine.
The book that made the biggest impact on my personal life is the ‘Four Agreements’ by Don Miguel Ruiz. It’s my favorite book and just gave me a release, took the weight off my shoulders. I’ll have to check out your suggestions.
I never heard of this one! I will definitely pick it up to read before the new year begins.
Congrats on your book, Mrs. Wonderful! One of my goals for 2017 is to finally become an author. Pray for me. A book that I really enjoyed this year was “Why You’re Not Married…Yet”, it gave me a lot of insight.
Thanks lady! You can do it sis! If I can write a book, anyone can. I will definitely keep you lifted up.